i went out for drinks with a friend a few days ago and i’d brought up a point that i’ve come to accept—there are a lot of unhappy people out here.
now, some of you may respond the same way he did, which was, “uhh, yeah. you’re just realizing that?” lol.
the answer is no, i’m not just realizing this. however, i have realized that i’ve become less tolerant of the effects of other people’s unhappiness.
i’m sure we’ve all had some sort of encounter with unhappy friends, family, coworkers, and strangers where no matter what, they are committed to dreadful misery. just extremely pessimistic, never satisfied and always itching for problems.
it’s exhausting to be around, isn’t it?
he went on to explain, “life is hard. many people are living in situations they don’t want to be in.” and to that i say, “yes, but what exactly does that have to do with me?” i didn’t contribute to your unhappiness, so why bleed on me if i didn’t cut you? why create problems where problems don’t exist?
being unhappy with your situation(s) doesn’t give you the right to be nasty to other people. especially when those people have been nothing but kind and respectful towards you. yes, everyone has bad days, but if everyday is a bad day, then baby, you have a much deeper problem that needs to be addressed. okay?
you’ll probably see this gif often. it’s one of my favs and i’m sure i make this face daily! lol.
now granted, we’re human. not every action or emotion that we express will be a positive one. however, at what point do we hold ourselves accountable for a lack of self-control? at what point do we own up to mistreating someone unprovoked? at what point do we take control of our undesirable situations and turn them into something more satisfying?
i recently wrote a post about two women who, to say the least, were just flat out rude to me at Trader Joe’s one afternoon. i was sitting in my car, minding my business, when one of the women slammed her door into mine while getting out of their van. despite me addressing the issue in a kind and graceful manner, they continued to spew hatred towards me.
i won’t revisit that situation, but my point is that there are many people out here who take their unhappiness out on other people who’ve done absolutely nothing to them to deserve such poor treatment.
… and you know what else? many people don’t take care of themselves. they give themselves the bottom of the barrel bare minimum and try to make everyone else suffer for their poor choices.
and quite frankly, as i mentioned before, i don’t have much tolerance for that. if i can help it, i choose to stay far away from those folks because that energy is highly draining and extremely contagious.
it’s like a virus. it plagues a host, replicates tenfold, and attacks everyone in it’s proximity. am i right?
yes, i am! lol.
but on a serious note, it’s important for us to remember that the misery of others has more to do with them and their internal struggles than it does with us. they were unhappy before we came along, and they’ll probably remain in such a state after we’ve moved on.
unfortunately, as the saying goes, “hurt people, hurt people.”
but no matter what, you must continue to take care of yourself, nurture your inner happy, and spread your light. because one thing about misery, it will extend an invite. and that’s an invitation that i will unapologetically decline each and every time.
“I will always love you, but I’ll never expect you to love me when you don’t love yourself. Let’s heal the world, one beautiful action at a time.” — Beyoncé Giselle Knowles-Carter
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